Alright, I’m going to play this game. I have been cruising the blogosphere for the last couple weeks, and I have noticed a lot of misinformation going around about “Liberal Feminists” and “Feminazis.” It seems like whenever I post a comment on someone else’s blog, especially on a more conservative-minded one, I get labelled this by someone, and then my comments are disregarded beyond that point.
Yes, I am a liberal, and yes, I am a feminist. But that doesn’t give you the right to pigeonhole me into a box that you think I fit into.
I am sure I don’t have to tell you, but this is beyond frustrating. I follow one particular conservative blog – because I am apparently into self-torture – and this issue comes up time and time again.
FYI, if you don’t like what someone is saying, it is not acceptable to give them some kind of condescending label, and then use that label to dismiss them! That in itself does NOT defeat their argument.
So, for the purposes of clearing this up, I’m going to write a small list of what feminism is for me:
- Women deserve the same opportunities as men.
- Women’s voices should be heard just as much as men’s, and given equal weight.
- “Women’s” work is valuable – and shouldn’t be done solely by women.
- Women’s equality does NOT emasculate men. Men’s insecurities do that.
- Women are not to be defined by their roles in relation to men.
- Neither being a working mother or a stay-at-home mom are more honourable than the other.
- Women should have the right to own her own body, it’s functions, and it capabilities.
- Do not define me based on how I look.
- Just because I am a woman, doesn’t mean all I care about are “women’s” issues.
These are my first thoughts.
I wish we didn’t live in a society where being concerned about equality is seen as a fringe idea or a negative ideal. I wish we didn’t live in a society where men and women are at such odds. Why is my advancement seen as threatening to men?
The author I frequent always describes feminism as “emasculating.” So, women are supposed to just shut up and live under your heel so you don’t feel any loss of power?? That sounds like a personal problem to me, honestly. I know there are plenty of men out there who don’t feel threatened by powerful women. They, my friend, are the REAL men.